Its been 10 years since we said ‘I DO’ to each other. We cherish each day and moment through the good times and the bad ones. Let me share with you what it looks like after being married for 10 years.
For obvious reasons, our society has formed a very negative image of marriage. You hear it quite often in conversations among friends and office colleagues who are married. The overall impression is that marriage is a death trap or downhill road where you’re up for deep trouble.
Well, as you’ve already guessed it though based on individual experiences, we don’t hold that to be true. In fact in our experience and understanding, a good marriage is a reflection of God’s passionate love for us, who we really are and what we believe to be a true sacred relationship between two lovers whom God joined together.
We are not the ‘best’ couples at all and our marriage is not the perfect marriage in the world as well. We’ve had our share of everything going wrong in our marriage with arguments, misunderstandings, financial strains, ill health, joblessness, situations that could have easily destroyed everything good and made it look ugly.
No matter how imperfect a marriage union seems to be it is interesting to read from the bible that God uses this union to describe his relationship with us. I would say its actually the other way around. Because it is He who initiated this union to begin with and therefore for us to understand his Love for us.
In a letter written by Apostle Paul to the church of Ephesus he talks about marriage as being a great mystery but is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. ‘Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord’.
To unfold this mystery it is therefore important to understand Christ’s love.
The bible unfolds the mystery by reminding us that God created us in his own image and unlike other creatures, he gave us humans a free will to choose from right and wrong. But because we chose to disobey and sin against him which we even do today our relationship with a Holy God was broken.
Our sin deserved punishment and hell, but God in his great mercy sent his son Jesus to die on our behalf to take that punishment that we deserved upon himself and on the third day after his death, He rose again conquering death itself. And now all we have to do is to repent of our sins, just believe in what God has done and receive this free gift of salvation.
Jesus loved us to the point that he gave his life for us. Our response is faith and wholehearted submission.
For me and Jane, these last 10 years have been a journey of understanding the depth of Jesus’ love for us and translating it into our marriage. It is also our ongoing pursuit for the future and the many more years together because it never ends. The more you discover Him, the more He draws you into deeper joy, love and peace.
Marriage is divine, it reminds us of our creator God whose love for us is unconditional and immeasurable. Its an inexpressible feeling!