There are a number of us who take pleasure and seek for happiness in buying and possessing material things. The advertisements nowadays are so sickening, they make us feel unhappy if we do not buy their products or avail their services. I feel terribly sick when people chase me to buy credit cards, financial products and all sorts of things as though I can’t be happy without them.
Friedrich Koenig, a German inventor rightly said: “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
Once upon a time, even I was one of those people who worried and felt unhappy for the things I did not have, though I knew it was not the right way to think and behave. It was easy said than to live until it took some time for me to come out of it.
Martha Washington, wife of George Washington once said “I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.”
Disposition means a person’s inherent qualities of mind and character, the way in which something is placed or arranged, especially in relation to other things.
I completely agree with her as I had to deal with my own disposition to feel happy, the way I was been taught, fed & trained by our system. I know it won’t go away that easily but by constantly reminding myself and putting away with the things that give a false sense of happiness I have learned to be happy.
I’ve realized that true happiness comes out of healthy relationships firstly with our creator and then from the people around us. It comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating new things and quality of thoughts, enjoying the present without anxious dependence upon the future.
Happiness can never be found in shopping malls or buying expensive items and living a luxurious lifestyle therefore cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.
“Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of travelling.” – Margaret Lee Runbeck