It’s a feeling deep down your heart, a feeling of heaviness, fear, and discouragement filled with sadness, guilt, and anxiety.
I often go through this feeling when I fail at something even after being convinced of the fact that failure is part of our life and should be taken in the right spirit.
No matter how hard I try the feeling remains and stays there till I decide to step out and do something about it.
Instead of talking about the importance of failure in one’s life which I believe we all know, let’s deal with this feeling of failure and find ways to overcome them.
Here are 3 tips that will definitely work for you because they work for me.
Talk to yourself
I remember reading one of the psalm (poetry) of King David where he is talking to himself in time of failure and distress.
“Why, my soul, are you downcast?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God”
Trust me, it helps. I have to do it quite often because there are times in my life when I just want to raise my hands and call it quits especially when I fail to deliver and fail to stay focused on my goals. These are the times when I speak out loud and boldly, positive confessions of how good I am regardless of the momentary feeling of failure.
Every time I’ve done this, I have felt better and it has helped me get rid of my feeling of failure.
Find a Companion
When we face failure, the first thing that comes to mind is to isolate yourself from everyone and everything but instead, I suggest you find a companion who knows you and your potential better than anybody else in this world.
My companion is my wife Jane. No matter how bad I perform or conduct myself, she has always stood beside me and encouraged me. On many occasions, she has been instrumental in helping me overcome this distressful feeling. The reason she is able to do that is that she knows me and the potential I have better than anybody else. Her companionship has made me much stronger in overcoming such feelings.
You can have anyone as your companion depending on how well the person knows you. But always remember to restrain yourself from isolation and find a companion in times of failure.
Think of the Benefits
I firmly believe that our failures teach us more than our successes because it is true in my life.
When we fail, we learn to do things better the next time. So when you are going through this feeling, plan ahead and think of how you can approach the same situations differently.
As you plan and work on improving your skills, imagine yourself overcoming & succeeding in those failure situations. This exercise will boost your spirit and help pull yourself out of the feeling of failure and make you happier.