‘Winning as a Father?’ It may sound a bit strange as most of us would think winning a talent show or a quiz contest or any other sort of competition makes more sense but winning as a ‘Father’? Yes, setting the perfect example for our children when it comes to every sphere of our life, preparing that path set before them, laying a strong foundation is quite a daunting task but the most fulfilling.
Handpick any great man from this generation and ask them about the father’s role in their life and the difference he made to them, almost everyone will have a story to tell you.
”In the presence of his aura, his wealth of knowledge and his writing … in the presence of every pursuit of life in my life … reflected through shadows albeit, but trusted and valued. In his command and his strictures … in his beliefs .. in his prayers and his pertinence of them .. in his silences and his quiet resolve … in his learned self … in his contributions still employed …”
”In his room of his work … in his feelings for the day and that of many .. in his determination and will … and mostly in his being …My Father … !!,” – Amitabh Bachchan
I believe winning as a Father is the most crucial challenge for all of us in this generation. And it is a Fathers responsibility as well to create a wiser and brighter world than what we inhabit in today.
“If a country is to be corruption free and become a nation of beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are three key societal members who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother and the teacher”. – Abdul Kalam
As a Father, this is what winning would mean to me –
.. to become the strongest pillar in the family
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection. – Sigmund Freud
Life is challenging and filled with struggles all the time, especially raising a family in this generation with all the chaos and confusion around us. I’ve seen men today who are so much absorbed with all that is happening around them, constantly failing to be that strong pillar and unconsciously leading families into unknown grounds and uncertain circumstances.
In times like these, as a Father I want to stand as the strongest pillar in the family, to take responsibility and fight to protect and preserve my generation.
.. to know how to respect the women in my life
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. – Theodore Hesburgh
When I hear of all the brutality & injustice was done to the women in our country, I wonder what has gone wrong in our society today? Why haven’t the Fathers influenced their children to respect women?
The women in our lives deserve much respect; their role in the family and in the society is as crucial as the men’s. How we treat them proves what we think about them. As men, let us not hold the false opinion that we are above or hold a higher rank over the women. They are not our doormats that we can dictate over them & treat them with contempt.
Our children, our next generation, they observe and imitate us. The way we treat the women in our lives is how they learn to treat the women in their lives.
Our society will be a much better place if we have the right attitude towards women.
.. to live a life of integrity
Every man has three characters: that which he shows, that which he has, and that which he thinks he has. – Alphonse Karr, French journalist (1808-1890)
Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness. Our children are watching us day in and day out and they are constantly comparing our actions and our words.
As a Father, I want to model the behavior I expect of my children.
.. to be a good friend to my children
Being a father, being a friend, those are the things that make me feel successful. – William Hurt
The greatest success for a Father is to see his children successful & what I can accomplish by being a good friend to them is more rewarding than simply setting the bar or ground rules all the time.
A true friend knows, understands, trusts encourages, helps and elevates the other to reach great heights in life.
I want to be a good friend to my children and teach them the true meaning of friendship so they can be a good friend to others.
.. to bind the family together
In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future. – Alex Haley
As a book is bound with glue to keep the pages together, so is the role of a Father who binds the family together and keeps everyone united.
And that is again one of the roles I want to play, to keep our families always united in one accord so we can build a better tomorrow with the help of each other.
.. to invest in my children
In his book, iWoz, Steve Wozniak, the inventor of the personal computer & co-founder of Apple computers states
“My dad’s and my relationship was always pretty much about electronics… Dad was always helping me put science projects together… I distinctly remember feeling something big had happened, that suddenly I was way ahead–accelerated- above any of the other little kids my age..” – Steve Wozniak
As a Father, I want to invest in my children in whichever way I can. It could be by helping around with their projects or encouraging them with their hobbies.
I may never know in what way my investments in their life will accelerate them in reaching their goals or realizing their dreams.
To me winning as a Father will be my greatest accomplishment.